DAY 9: GUILT

In Oola for Christians, Heather had been carrying around so much guilt that it almost took her life. Recently someone told her that she is the poster child for God’s grace. When you look in the mirror, do you see yourself as a person that walks in guilt or in grace? Jesus didn’t walk around bringing judgement to people trying to make them feel guilty. The people he encountered already felt it. Jesus forgave them, freeing them of the weight they were carrying so they could live freely and fully, the way God intended. As Jesus was dying on the cross, his response was, “Father forgive them, for they no not what they do.”

 
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Day 9 - Today’s challenge is to release the blocker of guilt by writing a letter to someone who has hurt you. I know that sounds scary, but hang with us…

If someone has hurt you, it’s not necessary to carry the weight of the situation any more. Approach the person and offer forgiveness. If that’s impossible—because they’re no longer living, you can’t locate them or it’s simply too dangerous—you can use a technique we like called The Total Truth Letter—an exercise we got from success coach Jack Canfield.

When we’re hurt and upset, we usually fail to communicate all our true feelings to the person we’re upset with. It also becomes difficult to resume a normal relationship with them, if that’s what we choose to do.

Take out a piece of paper and complete the following statements as you work through the steps—one or more statements for each step:

1. Express your anger and resentment. I’m angry that… I resent…

2. Express your hurt. It hurt me when… I felt sad when…

3. Express your fear. I feel scared when… I was afraid that…

4. Express your remorse, regret and accountability. I’m sorry that…

5. Express your wants. All I ever want(ed) is… I deserve…

6. Express your love, compassion, forgiveness and appreciation. I understand that… I forgive you for… I appreciate…

When you’re done writing, you can deliver the letter, burn it, or otherwise destroy it. The key is to express for yourself your emotions and pain. This doesn’t condone what they did to you, but helps you forgive the person completely and allows you to let go of any guilt anchored in the past situation.

Where is another God like you, who pardons the guilt of the remnant, overlooking the sins of his special people? You will not stay angry with your people forever, because you delight in showing unfailing love.

MICAH 7:18

Prayer

God, I am so grateful for your forgiveness and grace. Today I confess that I have made mistakes and done things I shouldn’t. I’ve been hurt, and I’ve hurt others. I turn over my guilt, my shame and my pain. Please help me to walk in freedom knowing that you died for my sins. Please help me to forgive as you have forgiven.

Amen